Healing after Loss: Practical Ways to Cope & Honor Your Baby

The journey of pregnancy and infant loss is one no parent, surrogate, or family ever expects to walk. The grief can feel overwhelming, isolating, and impossible to put into words. But healing doesn’t mean forgetting. Healing is about finding ways to carry both love and loss together—honoring your baby while also giving yourself space to move forward at your own pace.

Every person’s path is different, but here are some meaningful and practical ways to cope and honor your baby:

1. Create a Memory Box

A memory box can hold special keepsakes that remind you of your baby—a hospital bracelet, ultrasound photos, cards, or even small tokens that bring comfort. Having a physical place to return to can make your baby’s presence feel tangible and allow you to honor their memory whenever you need.

2. Write Letters or Journal

Putting your emotions into words can be deeply healing. Write letters to your baby, jot down memories of your pregnancy, or keep a journal of how grief shows up day to day. These writings can be private or shared with loved ones, but either way they help release emotions and preserve connection. Our healing boxes include multiple journals to write and color your way with healing.

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3. Hold a Ritual or Ceremony

Lighting a candle, planting a tree, or organizing a small remembrance gathering can help acknowledge your baby’s life. Rituals create sacred moments where grief can be expressed and your child’s memory can be honored by others who loved them too. In partnership with surrogacy.is we offer a remembrance candle to light and honor babies gone too soon.

4. Seek Community & Support

Grief can feel isolating, but you are not alone. Support groups—both in-person and online—connect you with others who understand. Whether you are a parent, intended parent, or surrogate, community provides validation, compassion, and hope. Follow us on socials @london.is.the.reason to connect in the comments and find others going through similar experiences to connect with.

5. Wear or Carry a Symbol of Remembrance

Necklaces, rings, tattoos, or even small items you carry with you can be symbols of love. These tangible reminders allow your baby’s memory to be close to your heart every day. Our healing boxes offer angel keychains and be the reason (to keep carrying on in their memory) bracelets.

6. Give Back in Your Baby’s Honor

Some families find comfort in honoring their child by helping others. This may look like donating to a charity, volunteering, creating care packages, or supporting organizations that walk alongside grieving families. Turning grief into generosity can create a powerful legacy of love. When you're ready, consider being a Peer Supporter for us for those who need someone to talk to via text or call, who've been through it too.

7. Be Gentle with Yourself

Healing is not linear. Some days will feel heavier than others, and that’s okay. There is no timeline, no “right way” to grieve. Rest when you need to. Celebrate moments of joy when they come. And know that both can exist side by side. We're here for you with Peer Support and guidance, anything you need!

Final Thoughts

Healing after loss doesn’t mean moving on—it means moving forward while holding your baby’s memory with you. Whether through keepsakes, rituals, community, or simple daily acts of remembrance, your love for your baby continues. 💜

If you’ve experienced pregnancy or infant loss, know that you are not alone. Your grief is valid, your love is real, and your baby’s memory matters.