"WE BOTH LOST A CHILD BUT IN THE GRIEVING PROCESS THIS FOUNDATION WAS BORN IN LONDON'S HONOR"
-Intended parent Kristin McQuaid and Surrogate

My name is Kristin McQuaid and I am originally from Los Angeles, CA. I now reside in Tulsa, Oklahoma with my amazing husband, Steve. Our fertility journey is one I like to call “unbelievable” but in the opposite way you would normally think of the word. To date, my husband and I have been trying to conceive for over 13 years now. After 3 miscarriages, I was diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis. That led to 3 surgeries to help control the disease in hopes that would help my body to allow me to carry child. The endometriosis got worse and forced me to have a hysterectomy. After such a let down that I would never be able to carry a child of my own, we were blessed to learn about the world of surrogacy. Amazing woman-warriors-and selfless angels willing to risk their health and carry a child for someone else. After our first surrogate backed out half way through the process due to fear of Covid, we were introduced to a new surrogate via a surrogacy agency. I firmly believe everything happens to a reason. This statement became very apparent once we began the process with our new surrogate family. Our pregnancy journey was text book, the first transfer took, no complications, my surrogate treated this baby as if it were her own. Since my surrogate had 2 c-sections with her biological children, we planned to do the same with our baby. Week 39, July 14th 2021 was our due date. We walked into the hospital to meet our surrogate before the c-section began at 5:30am. Instead of hearing "Are you ready?" we were brought into a room by the doctor and her team to be told "She doesn't have a heart beat any longer". There was a heartbeat less than 12 hours before and no reason to think anything could have been wrong. Her cause of death...unknown. All tests came back normal, no cord strangulation, nothing. The doctors and hospital staff were in disbelief and crying for days as we all suffered a huge loss. I knew I couldn’t push my sadness and anger of losing my beautiful baby girl aside. I needed to take action. London Quinn is her name and she was put on this earth for a reason. Her time may have been short, but her presence and story will live on forever. This little girl had more to offer and it is my duty as her mommy to take her life story and use it to make this world a better place. 

As Kristin and the surrogate along with her husbands and families were in tremendous pain and sorrow they began to look for resources and support groups for infant loss at any stage in pregnancy within the Surrogacy/Gestational Carries and their Intended Parents to turn to for help. When you go though this process, whether it be for medical reason's like Kristin's or if you are apart of the amazing LGBTQ community and want a child, no matter what the circumstances its UNIQUE. It's unlike a loss from a biological mother. Kristin and her family grieve for the long wait and excitement to finally hold this child and give them the best life possible. Where the surrogate and her family feel guilt and blame along with the grieving sadness of a loss. There is NO other support group out there in this world right now and Kristin and the surrogate wanted to use the strength from London to spread awareness and bring support and resources to these unique and amazing situations to bring a child into this world. It's tough, both sides have so much stress and worry the whole 9 months, so when you finally reach that point and it ends in such a tragedy like ours did we didn't want to let our story die. We wanted to share it with the world and give hope and life to those that need it. You are not alone (how many times can we hear that when we are going through a loss) but it is true! We are here for you and want to help in anyway we can. Life is tough but together we can all make this world a better place.